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I came across a gorgeous quote today by a Persian Poet called Hafez. Fear is the cheapest room in the house. I would like to see you living in better conditions. ~ Hafez   It describes fear so aptly, don’t you think?

Fear is a prison

Fear is a prison

Fear of letting go I drove past a prison a few weeks ago, and it got me thinking about metaphorical prisons relating to the heart and to love. When it comes to the end of a relationship, be that romantic or plutonic, Fear of letting […]

There are no wrong turns

There are no wrong turns

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There are no wrong turns, says Love

I have been using my GPS a lot recently, and it struck me while I was driving today that there are no wrong turns in life. Just like a GPS re-routes you when you take a wrong turn, so will life re-route and readjust to get you back on track.

Fear will tell you otherwise

Sure, your fear may kick in initially by slamming on the brakes and panicking as if all is lost. But, once you take a moment to breathe and allow love to chime in, you will see that everything is in hand.

Personal Insights

To give you an example from my own life. Yesterday I did something drastic and deleted my Instagram and Facebook Accounts. And even though I put a lot of thought into deletion and I knew it was the right decision, I still had a bit of a knee-jerk reaction this morning. Mostly because I had expended a lot of time and energy into those accounts, and deleting those profiles feels a lot like deleting a part of myself.

However, after thinking it through again, I remembered how I deleted my LinkedIn account a few years ago when I closed my resume writing business. I remembered that that too was a big decision. I remembered that I had also put years of time and effort into that account. But in retrospect I see that it was absolutely the right thing to do. And, most importantly, it has not been missed. Which only confirms that deletion was the final piece of that particular personal cycle . Something that needed to be released so that I could move onto a new cycle without any baggage.

Thinking back about that today has helped me see that I have made the right decision, and there is no need to mope around or second guess myself. I have made my decision and now my internal GPS is re-routing me toward my next cycle. Onward and upward as the saying goes.

So, today’s thought of the day is:

Trust your intuition like you trust your GPS and know that there is no such thing as a wrong turn, or choice, or decision that cannot be corrected with your next set of turns, choices and decisions.

 

Peace out,

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Bianca Bowers

Bianca @lobby4love ✌️❤️

Knowledge is power
Applying knowledge is empowerment
Sharing knowledge empowers others

You’re Now Leaving the State of Facebook and Instagram

You’re Now Leaving the State of Facebook and Instagram

  I drive up to Mt Nebo a couple of times a week. It’s a 30 minute drive-give or take-and I love it, but for one thing…   Imagine me driving up the narrow, winding mountain road, enjoying the views, inhaling the crisp mountain air, […]

All Weighed Out

All Weighed Out

    3 Months Ago On the morning of my 5th day as a vegan, I stripped naked before stepping into the shower and experienced something unexpected, but wholly welcome. A deep sense of body confidence.  Which, I might add, is entirely different to body […]

Lobby4Love, Not Plastic (Part 2)

Lobby4Love, Not Plastic (Part 2)

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©️2017 Bianca Bowers

Hello lobby4lovers 🙂

Last week I touched on the effect Plastic has on the Planet, and mentioned two ways to raise your plastic-awareness. You can read Part 1 HERE.

Today, I continue down that path and bring your attention to a common everyday item that we think is recyclable, but is not.

Please welcome the big bag takeaway coffee Cup (boo hoo)

Takeaway (or ‘to go’ for my US readers) coffee cups are generally made from 1 of 2 materials:-

  1. Paper-based cup with plastic lid
  2. Polystyrene (aka Styrofoam) cup with plastic lid

The statistics

  • In Australia, an estimated 3 billion coffee cups are sold each year
  • In the US, that number is estimated to be 50 billion
  • The majority of which end up in landfill, or litter in rivers, parks and the ocean

The low down on takeaway coffee cups

lobby4love-coffee-cupsLet’s start with the paper-based cups.

Ever wondered what makes your paper-based coffee cup waterproof? Unfortunately, it involves plastic. These cups contain a polyethylene (plastic) lining, which renders them non-recyclable.

It requires a specialised recycling facility to remove the plastic inner and recycle the paper component of the cup, however these facilities are few and far between.

In addition to the plastic lining, the paper component involves harvesting of trees and pulping, which is bad news for the planet.

And the final nail in the coffin is that when we put these into recycling bins they often end up contaminating other recyclable materials and the whole lot are sent to landfill. Ugh!

 

styrofoam-cupThen we have the styrofoam cup.

Styrofoam (foamed polystyrene) is not recyclable because it breaks down so slowly.

Styrofoam is composed of 95% air, which makes it highly mobile and likely to escape from garbage bins and landfill. It also tends to flake and travel long distances, which, as you can guess, is an environmental nightmare.

Styrofoam in landfills will still be there 500 years from now. Which is insane! Outside of landfill it ends up polluting the environment and killing wildlife, birds, and marine life.

 

ALTERNATIVES, PLEASE?

Don’t panic, you don’t have to quit coffee! I have done a bit of research into this, and there are alternatives. Nothing is perfect, it seems, but these reusable cup alternatives are better than billions of single-use cups ending up in landfill every year.

lobby4love-rice-husk-cupMy personal alternative

After looking around for weeks and finding nothing great, I discovered an excellent alternative when I took the kids to Lone Pine Koala Sanctuary during the recent school holidays.

It’s a reusable cup made from Rice Husks. And the good news is that the coffee tastes good. The cup itself is also designed and made in Australia, which is even better news for me.

The Facts

Like I said, there is no perfect solution as of yet, but this solution is vastly better. The cup itself has a melamine feel and is designed to last for a minimum of 4 years. It is not recyclable at the end of its lifespan, but it is biodegradable and breaks down over a 4 year period in landfill.

The Lid and holder are made from silicone (usually made in China), and they are not recyclable. These online stores who sell them generally state that the silicone element can be recycled with household waste-which is just marketing-speak for landfill, because household waste = landfill.

Still, buying 2 of these reusable cups versus hundreds of the paper-based cup every year is undeniably better for the Planet.

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Where can you buy them?

My cups were made by Three Green on the behalf of the Koala Sanctuary, but I have found an online supplier called EcoSouLife, who also have a range of bamboo and rice husk products to choose from.

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http://ecosoulife.com/

 

These eco products are biodegradable, and typically made from vegetable waste such as corn starch, bamboo and rice husks.

They are also heat resistant, dishwasher safe and fully reusable.

 

 

Supply and Demand

I’m a firm believer in the laws of supply and demand. As long as we demand, they will supply. Conversely, if we stop demanding non-recyclable cups and demand an alternative, they will supply.

In Australia, there is an organisation called Responsible Runners who have created a responsible-cafes-program in which customers can claim a discounted coffee for using a reusable cup for takeaway coffee or tea.

Australians, if you haven’t already, check it out!

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https://www.responsiblecafes.org

 

I hope that this post about Coffee Cups has been informative and provided food for thought. Do you have anything to add? Let me know in the comments.

 

Bianca @lobby4love ✌️❤️

Knowledge is power
Applying knowledge is empowerment
Sharing knowledge empowers others
~ Bianca Bowers

 

Fear vs Love

Fear vs Love

Fear is supposed to be a survival mechanism. An internal alarm designed to protect us in life-and-death situations. You could say that fear is organic in its purest form. But, somewhere along the hike from infancy to adulthood, that organic fear is modified and becomes […]

Lobby4Love, Not Plastic (Part 1)

Lobby4Love, Not Plastic (Part 1)

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Personal Cycles

Personal Cycles

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It is my belief and experience that humans, like nature, are subject to cycles. Cycles in nature include seasons, lunar cycles, and life cycles (to name a few). For individuals, our personal cycles may be less obvious, but they are present, and the ability to identify those cycles can assist us to navigate through and forward.

What is a personal cycle?

Personal cycles could include mini cycles like our 12 hour day and 12 hour night. We could also view our health, career, fitness, parenting, and personal development as a perpetual series of personal cycles. Plus, there are cycles that accompany our short and long-term goals. When you think about it, cycles are a fundamental force in both our personal lives and in the world at large.

I recently reached the end of several cycles, and ended up changing my fitness program, my diet, my career goals, and aspects of my lifestyle, among other things. Yours may be different. I offer my own examples as a guide to get you thinking about the cycles that are unique to you.

How do you know you’ve reached the end of a personal cycle?

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In my experience, the end of a cycle is best described as a liminal space. That is to say it is a transient, in-between space that feels like limbo and results in a sense of discomfort and restlessness. It’s almost like procrastination, except that we don’t know what we’re  procrastinating about. If we are unaware that we have reached the end of a cycle, we sometimes react to that liminal space by trying to control it, or escape from it. That is to say, we resist. But the key to ending a cycle is not resistance. It is patience. When you find yourself in this liminal space, it is crucial to trust the process, accept the changes and growth that are taking place, and to have faith that the answers will arrive when you’re ready.

Using an example from my life and recent changes. I knew about a year ago that my fitness program was no longer hitting the mark. However, I couldn’t find a suitable alternative, and I feared that all of my hard work over the previous two years would unravel if I stopped. So I stuck with it for another year. Mostly unhappy and dissatisfied, but trying to convince myself that I had no other option. In a word, I resisted the change instead of practicing the art of non-resistance and just going with the flow. Having said that, it wasn’t wasted time, because I learnt a few important lessons that helped me eventually release the old program with unwavering conviction and zero doubt. Something I wasn’t able to do a year earlier.

So, it’s worth repeating this:

The key to ending a cycle is NOT resistance. It is patience. When you find yourself in this liminal space, it is crucial to trust the process, accept the changes and growth that are taking place, and to have faith that the answers will arrive when you’re ready.

How do you end an old cycle and begin anew?

©️2017 Bianca Bowers

There are three simple steps to ending an old cycle and starting anew.

1. RELEASE

Identify the lessons learnt in the old cycle and Release what no longer serves you. 

The first step to ending an old cycle is to release what no longer serves you. I like to think of the old in physical terms i.e. as taking up physical space. Which, taken a step further, illustrates how difficult it would be to adopt something new without making space for it first.
Put another way, releasing is a lot like seeking closure or tying up loose ends. Just like closure helps you release an old relationship, for instance, so too does closure help you end an old cycle.

The best way to release the old is to identify the lessons you have learnt from that cycle and begin applying them.

2. RESET

Apply the lessons learnt and Reset your intention for the new cycle.

Once you’ve released the old and made space for the new, it’s time to RESET. You can do this by applying the lessons you’ve learned and formulating a new approach. This will involve setting new goals, objectives, and philosophies for how you wish to proceed in the new cycle.

3. REDEFINE

Redefine your direction and begin a new cycle. 

Once you’ve released and reset, it’s time to redefine your direction and even reinvent yourself if need be. Reinventing and redefining is crucial because it is an active acknowledgement that parts of your old self have become obsolete, and those spaces that your old self filled, need to be replaced with something new and improved. Improvements that will serve you on your new journey. Improvements that the old self was incapable of doing, achieving, and/or reaching. Reinventing or Redefining is essentially replacing old limitations with more empowering intentions.

 

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Bianca Bowers

I hope that this post about personal cycles has been informative and provided food for thought. Do you believe in cycles? Let me know in the comments.

Bianca @lobby4love ✌️❤️

 

 

 

Knowledge is power
Applying knowledge is empowerment
Sharing knowledge empowers others
~ Bianca Bowers